Recently two of my friends asked me to help them with their styling. While I felt extremely flattered I was also terrified. I find it easy to combine outfits but how would I go helping someone else embrace a style that is not mine? We gave it a go anyway and the outcome was amazing!
So I have broken down the steps to go through which we’ll share with you here over the next three weeks. Get excited as you’re about to find, rediscover and/or develop your style by:
- Finding yourself through decluttering your wardrobe;
- Organising your clothes to never be left without anything to wear;
- Starting to experiment with what you have and what you love.
A Closet Full Of Clothes and Nothing to Wear
Decluttering your wardrobe means getting rid of all the things that no longer fit or you no longer like or wear. It can be challenging for some and others find it easy. Personally, I struggled with it for years. Yet without doubt, decluttering your clothes is the most important and first task you need to do to find your wardrobe-mojo (again) and to start every day on a positive note.
Holding onto clothes because they were expensive, you only wore them once, because you liked it on others but not on yourself are not good reasons. Whenever you find yourself saying: “I used to love it. It never really fit. I am not sure about this one…”, give it away. Whose wardrobes are big enough to keep every bad buy? Plus, why would you hold onto things that don’t make you happy?
Filled up with joy and dressed in happiness
One of my friends had no issue with throwing things out. The other only had one pair of expensive shoes that she didn’t wear. I personally still own a pile of “maybe” items, packed away in a vacuum bag… So I totally get it, it is not the same for everyone. But let me tell you, you are going to feel so invigorated if you let go of things that are no longer (or have never been) you.
When decluttering my and my friends’ wardrobes, I apply Marie Kondo’s “Spark Joy” method. It is a very gentle yet highly effective way to create calm and happiness in not only your closet but in your life as well. I highly recommend it. Here is a brief version of the steps to follow when decluttering your clothes:
- Make sure you are on your own and undisturbed for two to three hours. You may ask a friend to keep you honest or advise you when you’re unsure. But no kids or partner, I’d say.
- Pile up ALL (!) your clothes and ideally shoes and accessories in one room. You’ll be surprised how much you have got (and forgotten about).
- Pick up every item and ask yourself whether it makes you happy. Marie Kondo recommends holding the item with both hands in front of your chest or even hugging it. If you have a positive connection with the item (or as she says if it sparks joy) you may keep it. If you feel nothing, sadness, guilt or regret, give it away to charity or place it in the bin if it is broken. Don’t hold onto anything that gives you a negative vibe. You might need to get used it but once you know the feeling you are looking for, it will be very easy.
What you should end up with is a pile of clothes, shoes and accessories that you feel happy in. Clothes that you love and that excite you.
When in doubt
It is okay to keep things that no longer fit, that you will never ever wear again, as long as they spark joy and looking at them makes you happy. Marie Kondo recommends keeping those items in sight so that every time you open your closet door, you smile.
During the process you might hesitate, fearing that you will be left with hardly anything to wear. I can tell you that this is very, very unlikely. In contrast actually. Because generally, the things you don’t like or don’t fit, you don’t wear anyway. Clearing your wardrobe from unused fillers will allow you to get dressed quicker and more easily. Plus it will reveal whether you actually need another grey jumper.